Jenni Kerswell Frost Psychotherapist

DOMESTIC ABUSE
I am a psychotherapist with 18yrs experience, having worked with Womens Aid, then SAFE. I specialise in domestic abuse, working with clients who are in or have experienced domestic abuse. I am based in Exeter. I work in a very safe building and offer clients hourly sessions at a price they can afford. The first session is free so a client can decide how they feel and if therapy is for them. I am passonate about my work and am aware a client is taking a very brave step.

Recognize an Abuser


A PUSH FOR QUICK INVOLVEMENT
Comes on very strong, claiming, "I've never felt loved like this by anyone". An abuser pressures the victim for an exclusive commitment almost immediately.

JEALOUSY
Excessively possessive; calls constantly or visits unexpectedly. Prevents you from going to work because "you might meet someone". Checks where you have been and who with. Accuse you of having affairs and check your car milage.

UNREALISTIC EXPECTATIONS
Expects you to be perfect and meet their every need. Do everything they want to do

ISOLATION
Tries to cut you off from family and friends. Accuses people who are your supporters of "causing trouble". The abuser may deprive you from holding a job. He may insist that you move somewhere isolated.

HYPERSENSITIVITY
Is easily insulted, claiming that their feelings are hurt when they are really mad. They'll rant about the injustice of things that are just part of life.

THREATS OF VIOLENCE
Makes statements like, "I'll break your neck" or "I'll kill you," and then dismisses them with "Everybody talks that way" or "I didn't really mean it". Or “you made me do that.”

CRUELTY TO ANIMALS AND TO CHILDREN
Kills or punishes animals brutally. Uses hurting your pet as a threat to scare you. Also may expect children to do things that are far beyond their ability. Sixty-five percent of abusers who beat their partner will also abuse children.

VERBAL ABUSE
Constantly criticizes you, or says blatantly cruel, hurtful things. Degrades, curses, calls you ugly names.

RIGID SEX ROLES
Expects you to serve, obey and remain at home.

SUDDEN MOOD SWINGS
Switches from sweetly loving to explosively violent in a matter of minutes. Can be very charming when people are around, but switch moods when on own.

PAST ABUSE
Admits hitting in the past, but says they made them do it or the situation brought it on.


Why Telling About Your Abuse is Transformative

You move through the shame and secrecy that keeps you isolated.
You move through denial and acknowledge the truth of your abuse.
You make it possible to get understanding and help.
You get more in touch with your feelings.
You get a chance to see your experience, and yourself, through the compassionate eyes of a supporter.
You make space in relationships for the kind of intimacy that comes from honesty.
You establish yourself as a person in the present, who is dealing with the abuse in her/his past.
You join a courageous community of women/men who are no longer willing to suffer in silence.
You help end abuse by breaking the silence in which it thrives.
You become a model for other survivors.
You eventually feel proud and strong

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